Talking with WA Sexology Society
Last night, the Western Australia Sexology Society (I am a member) invited me to be “a living book” – a popular exercise. We get into a circle, and the ‘book’ speaks, then answers questions. This is the scene for some very frank disclosures! We’re all vitally interested in healthy sexuality and healthy relationships, and want to learn from each other. The best question for the evening was “Carla, what you do you think is THE most important thing to remember if you want a great relationship? “The answer came right off my tongue because I had given this a lot of thought recently and had started to practice in earnest. It’s to remember what you LIKE about your partner, and take the trouble to TELL him or her, at least once a day, from your heart.
Filed under: Relationships on October 15th, 2009
There is no doubt that talking dirty is very healthy for every man and woman and for each relationship. The great lesson from Geishas, courtesans , and today’s celebrity porn queens is not in the physical acts they perform… it’s in HOW THEY TALK!
Talking dirty …can show your partner how much s/he is appreciated and wanted…
I think it’s all in the feeling that comes with the talk, really. There is ‘talking dirty’ and there is smut and crudeness. You don’t want to go for the latter if you’re into feeling and expressing real appreciation!
When I was a kid, I had to watch adults smirk and talk dirty with crude innuendo and bad taste. It made my very small heart feel sad, And that is good feedback, really. A child feels the energy of what’s being said.
dirty talk should be natural in the bedroom! Happens when two people are really comfortable and themselves with each other, great blog btw
I like both these posts, but Clinton’s in particular because he emphasises the feelings that go with the words, or the energy, and that’s what matters to me as well.
Like Clinton, I cringed as a child at the crudeness of some of the adults around me who wanted to be funny and show their sexual ‘maturity.’ What’s most comfortable? Talking dirty or using words of appreciation? No reason why both can’t be in the bedroom…Open heart and open legs…